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Those Greedy, Selfish Baby Boomers

3/7/2015

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What do GenYs really think?
"Many young people realise we have been screwed but we also realise we are powerless to change anything. The vast majority of baby boomers I know were incredibly lucky, worked no harder than people of my generation, made money by sitting on their behinds, and now, what makes it really bad- they refuse to acknowledge the advantages they had."  - A blog comment
What do Baby Boomers really think?
"Unfortunately most of our youth are busy living their exciting lives and haven't got any time left for politics or organisation so they become an easy target for Governments." - A blog comment
Can we blame GenYs for thinking Baby Boomers are greedy and selfish?
The financial crisis of 2008-2012 (has it ended yet?)
was caused by greed. The greed of baby boomers. 
And the gobsmacking result? Large corporations who engaged in this deception were not only NOT jailed, but were bailed out. We actually gave them more money! What message does that give the movers and shakers of our future? 

By these actions are we saying greed and selfishness is okay? Surely that appears so?

"It is the responsibility of the older generation to make things better for the younger generation, and on that measure the Boomer generation has failed." Sadly, I agree.
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Financial Review 2 July 2015 - According to new research, The federal government's failure to fix a budget based on over-optimistic growth forecasts means young Australians could be slugged an extra $100,000 in taxes,over their lifetimes,to pay for today's spending commitments.
But it hasn't all been beer and skittles for Baby Boomers either, 
especially Boomer women
Some reports say women in their 50s and 60s are at particularly high risk of homelessness. Why?
Let’s look at two of the many reasons: Money mixed in with Pride
  • Some are divorced (often traded in for a younger model) and don’t get a fair share of their ex-husband’s superannuation. And often, they have little or no super themselves.
  • According to the ABS, a 60 year old single woman will have, on average, around $60,000 in her superannuation fund. That will not last long in so-called retirement.
  • The gender pay gap is now 18.8%. That’s significant in terms of take home pay. And the gap was much, much more back in the day. Single women have been the working poor for decades.
  • Child maintenance is now enforced. Not so in the days of young boomer motherhood. My weekly payment was $15 per each of my two children. And it was never paid.
  • Finally, that 'inconvenient' Global Recession in 2007 wiped out a considerable amount of nest egg savings. That's if, as a single woman, you had any.
Let's not forget what GenXs really think
"Also, it's not just the older generation. I'm GenX. Unlike GenY who think getting 1,000 Facebook likes is a job, we went out and got real jobs. That's why we can invest and look after our future." - A blog comment
Sounds like an inter-generational war!
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And the last thing we need is another war. 

What if we agreed each generation has their advantages and 
their pain? Because they do!

Let's stop looking only in the rear-view mirror. 
Because, if that's all we did , we would crash and burn. 
Let's deal with what we see through the front windscreen.

What we see is the present and the way forward.

The Present: I see a planet in pain. The suffering and deep turmoil on our planet is hardly bearable, and made worse because I feel powerless to change it. (Interestingly, much like GenYs say they feel.)

The Way Forward: I'm clueless. So many causes, wars and issues, so many! I am in overwhelm.
Rather than dive deeper into despair, what can I REALLY do to make a difference? Unless you come up with a better idea, I feel the only way to make a difference is to look to my own energy. What am I putting out there, what do others 'feel' when with me? Do they feel a darkness or a lightness?

This is not about being mindlessly positive. 

This is about acknowledging your impact on your surroundings. The choice is yours. Contribute to the darkness and despair or focus on how it could be better. Decide it can be better. Then find that way.
Yes. I like that. How can it be better?

What do you think?

Victoria Rose
The Leadership Voice.com

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As I typed, the words unravelled.
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What I love about the internet is the connectivity.
To me, the internet = people power.
And I cannot forget this : "When the people lead, the leaders will follow."
Are we sheep?
BTW, Not this little LEO. But you guessed that already.
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The 'Just This Once' Lie

25/6/2015

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My tape measure never lied, until recently that is.

According to my defective tape measure, something nasty was happening to my body, a most unattractive thickening of the waistline.

Desperate measures were called for, so out came the sewing machine to make what I called ‘fat dresses’. As a rule, my weight tends to fluctuate. However, if it went up, it always came back down. 

Well, it used to always come back down. It is certainly a wakeup call when you can no longer fit into your fat dresses.

I Was Gutted
Recently, an image of a white hamburger bun with the heading “Wheat Tummy’ dramatically turned up the volume of that wakeup call. That white ‘muffin top’ hamburger bun image looked exactly how my stomach looked, when I wasn’t trying to hold it in. I was gutted (excuse the pun).

So, should I accept this happens when one ages and get my sewing machine out to make up ‘super-size fat dresses’? 


That’s certainly an option. How easy would it be to simply sit back, relax and pour another glass of sparkling wine whilst reaching for another block of chocolate? 

I could say to myself it’s okay; this is what happens when one ages. It’s not my fault! I could let this ‘fact’ settle in and then reach for another glass of sparkling wine.
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Yes, that’s an option, but I didn’t want that to be my reality.
We make decisions every single day

The consequences of those decisions create our future. Consequences can be good for us or not so good for us. Deciding you can’t be bothered to exercise today has a clear consequence. Eating chocolate and pouring another glass of sparkling wine has clear consequences. “Oh, just this once.” we say. It won’t hurt! The ‘just this once’ lie can easily lead to habitual behaviour that doesn’t serve us. 


Life does not happen to us, it happens through us, through the decisions we make.

Never give away your power to say yes or to say no.

Own your decisions, don’t point the finger of blame at someone or something else. Enjoy that glass of sparkling wine I say; don’t beat yourself up over having it. But don’t lie to yourself about why you made that decision to do so.

It’s pretty clear why I’ve developed my ‘middle-aged spread’ and it has little to do with my age and a lot to do with the decisions I make every single day.


This is an excerpt from Victoria's new book "How To make The Rest Of Your Life The Best Of Your Life: Tough Love For Smart Single Women Over 60'


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I Should Write A Book!

9/6/2015

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If you’ve ever said to yourself “I should write a book.” then I encourage you to do so.

On a personal level, the clarity you’ll gain when committing your thoughts to paper is priceless.
My book writing venture helped me join the dots, to see parts of my life in a new way.

If your story remains untold, you’ll never know the potential, the fulfilment and the joy of sharing it.
You’ll never find out how your story has inspired others to create a better life for themselves.

I know what you’re thinking: 
“Who would want to read what I have to write?”

Many times, writing page after page of my first book, I'd call out “Who’s going to read this crap anyway?”

Thankfully, the feedback from readers has been most encouraging.

My intention is to get my book into the hands of as many women as possible because I believe this book makes a difference. Even if women are in a domestic violence situation, this book can help them climb out of that dark space. Even if they’ve got the perfect marriage, kids, house, car yet feel guilt ‘cause they’re not happy this book will help them too. 


Even those who are not baby boomers will find this book offers valuable guidance to how they're creating their own life experience.
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Recently, a 32 year old mum bought my book. 
She’d read her mother’s copy, in particular the chapter on 'The Burnt Chop Syndrome'. She instantly saw her behaviour falling into that exact pattern. She instantly saw how she was setting herself up for being a martyr. She instantly knew she did not want that result for herself or her family
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And YES! Even men have read my book and found it a useful guide to living a better life.

Finally, read why an 80 year old woman suffered deep regret for how she’d lived her life:
“I wish I’d had more control over my own life. I wish I’d stood up for myself more. I wish I’d done more of 
what I wanted to do.”

Lead your best life. The power to do that lies entirely in your own hands.

Victoria Rose
Author- Leadership Trainer - Self Empowerment Enthusiast

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Over 60 And Over The Hill?

29/5/2015

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Some say “Over 60 and over the hill” but they’re wrong about that.

We’ve walked on this planet for six decades or more and with our wisdom and life experience we are a benefit to this world not a burden. Don’t ever doubt your worth. There’s a reason you’re still alive; why not find out what it is? 

To do that, you must step up and take accountability for your own life. if your life is dull and meaningless, do something about that. 
Do something different to change your life, for you are the only one who can. 

We are long past waiting for that knight in shining armour to whisk us away to a happy ever after. It’s time to realise we are the people we’ve been waiting for.

Here's that something different you can do. 
I've developed a private and insightful diagnostic tool to determine how much 'WOW' you have in your life right now.

55 questions providing possible solutions to your situation. Please do not race through to the end. This diagnostic tool is meant to take ten minutes. You can download your free report at the end.

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The Sixty and Single Solo Traveller - By Choice!

22/4/2015

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Solo travel is in my DNA. From travelling to the UK, as an 18 year old on a two-year working holiday, to celebrating my 50th birthday backpacking for seven weeks around Italy and the Greek Islands and recently exploring Bali, I’ve learnt a thing or two. 
But why solo travel? Don’t I have any friends? 

Even as an 18 year old I didn’t live in London, the destination for most Aussies; I wanted to live life as the British did. Experiencing the culture and everyday living of different countries holds endless fascination. That’s why staying in secluded and exclusive resorts has rarely been appealing. The spontaneity of the moment guides me so the accommodation for my seven week backpacking trip was booked for the first three nights, only. My gut guided me after that. 
Strangely, some find that scary. So yes, I do have friends. We simply are not a match for how we like to spend our time when travelling. But why on earth would anyone travel solo? We live in dangerous times, don’t we?
Firstly, travelling solo gives you the freedom to find yourself again. 
Often, a woman’s true identity gets lost as she takes on the many roles the decades of her life demands. Inevitably though, the day will come when she needs to be who she really is, but just who is that? 
Stepping into the search for self takes courage. And that journey is one she must take for herself. 

And why begin that search on a cold and grey wintery day? 

That’s just one of many reasons to step into a different location. Lounging by an infinity pool, sipping cocktails and soaking up the warmth of the Bali sun can be a life saver. Feeling pampered and nourished by daily massages and fresh, vital food, one can finally let go of ‘life back home’. Now there is the head space to ponder what we truly want out of life, to play with those infinite possibilities. Now there is time to honestly ask if we deserve to be happy and to listen to our answer. 
We all have a right to live a happy life, one we could describe as ‘Wow’, don’t we? 

Secondly, do we live in dangerous times? 

Yes, listen to or watch the news and this will be confirmed 24/7. But is that true? Whilst travelling through Naples in 2000, I found an internet cafe and sat down to check my emails. Every email had the same urgent message. “The riots” family and friends screamed “stay clear of the riots in Naples!” Puzzled, I looked out the window at the peaceful street scene. Yes, there was shouting but that was the shouting of people, packed into every cafe boasting a TV set, watching the Sydney Olympic Games. Yep! It looked pretty bad from back home but here at the heart of the reported riots, all was peaceful. 

One way to diminish danger is to walk confidently. 

Whilst it is true the backpack gives you away as a tourist or traveller, this does not mean you will automatically be seen as an easy target. Walking confidently is an art and like any art, it must be practised. A woman who walks confidently with shoulders back, head upright and an easy smile conveys an impression of strength and an alertness to her surroundings. Travelling solo means your attention is focused on your surroundings, not on talking to your companion.

Travelling solo is not for everyone but as an exercise in getting to know yourself all over again or perhaps uncovering you don't really know yourself anymore, I recommend it.

Victoria Rose
Leadership Trainer-Self-empowerment Enthusiast
Author: How To Make The Rest Of Your Life The Best Of Your Life: Tough Love For Smart Single Women Over 60
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Better The Devil You Know?

5/3/2015

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The sound of the man’s fist punching the woman’s face exploded into the packed tram, yet no one said or did anything. Why? 

Sadly, this happened in the city, yet data from the Victoria Police show the rates of domestic violence in country Victoria are higher and ... also accepted. Those women who reach out to their Mum for support are told “Suck it up love.” 

Does this mean acceptance of domestic violence is generational? Whatever the reason, these women are trapped in the vicious cycle of despair and depression. And it's their own fault, it would appear.
For so long, women have said “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t'. 
The only flowers they ever get are those placed on their graves.  

As reported in The Age “The Minister for the Prevention of Family Violence, Fiona Richardson, said people had a right to be safe, especially in their own home, no matter where they lived. 
Indeed they do Fiona, indeed they do. 

So why don’t we, the observers, speak up?

Let's say you were on that tram and witnessed the punch in the face incident. 
What would you have done?
Tell me.

Victoria Rose
Self Empowerment Enthusiast
Leadership Trainer
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The Burnt Chop Syndrome

3/3/2015

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Started in 1911, International Women's Day (8 March) is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. Suffragettes campaigned and suffered for the right of women to vote. (The word 'Suffragette' is derived from the word "suffrage" meaning the right to vote.) 
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International Women's Day honours the work of the Suffragettes, celebrates women's success, and reminds of inequities still to be redressed. Globally, women make up two thirds of the worlds population, yet earn only 10% of the world’s income. Yes, there is much to be done and it has to start with the women themselves.  Women must become aware of their habitual behaviours, habits that don’t serve them. 

Let’s look at a common one: ‘The Burnt Chop Syndrome’. Although this is a uniquely Australian expression, it has a global impact. And it’s not just about burnt chops.
So here's how it works. You've burnt a chop or a sausage (or whatever you're cooking) and place the burnt offering on your plate. You burnt it after all. Okay, perhaps you like burnt chops? But if you don't, what is the message you're giving to yourself and to others at the table?  The message to you might be "I will give myself the worst so the others can have the best." The message to the others might be "I am the least important person here and deserve the worst. Or do you suffer from being a Martyr Mum?  Although you might laugh at this expression, and what it might mean, I describe many stories of it's affect in my book. And the effect of always giving yourself the burnt chop is long lasting.
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Just yesterday, a young woman contacted me to buy a copy of my book. She'd glanced through her Mother's copy and read the chapter "The Burnt Chop Syndrome'. Instantly, she identified with the stories in this chapter and could not believe she was doing exactly that behaviour. She saw the effect on her and her family's relationship. Immediately, she changed her behaviour. Immediately. 

Yes, this story is not just about burnt chops. It's about the value you place on yourself. How high is that?

Victoria Rose
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I AM DUMB!

26/1/2015

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“That’s what Tracey believed about herself.
 
She’d believed it all her life because it was true. Everybody knew it was true, and Tracey was often ragged about it when she did dumb things. Which was often. Actually, Tracey never realised how dumb she was until she went to school.

As a young girl, she suffered from a lazy eye so wore unattractive, thick lensed glasses. And sometimes she was a little clumsy, which always drew an audience. How the others kids laughed then; she was blonde after all. 

Tracey grew up believing she was dumb. Even though it was never proven to be true, somehow it stuck. Whenever she did things that others could get away with, Tracey never could.
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She often felt humiliated and ashamed. So she learnt to laugh at the comments and decided it didn’t matter that she was dumb.

However, as a 70-year-old woman, Tracey still remembers she was always the dumb kid at school. As a 70-year-old woman, with deep wisdom gleaned from the rich tapestry of her life, Tracey still felt dumb. Even on her deathbed, Tracey will still feel dumb. That’s the saddest part; it doesn’t have to be that way.”

(Excerpt from ‘How to Make The Rest of Your Life The Best of Your Life: Tough Love For Smart Single Women Over 60’ Author - Victoria Rose. Page 143.)

This is a true story. I hope its not true for you?

 
Please be careful which words you choose to say after: 

"I AM …” For they have the power to determine your fate. Believe me.

Don’t be a Tracey!  
But seriously, are you?

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A 'Bit' Violent?

10/1/2015

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That’s what she said. 
I choked on my take-away latte at her manipulation of that fact. 

How can anyone be a ‘bit’ violent? 

They either are violent or not violent, surely?

Violence is an escalating global issue. Nowhere does it hit home more than when it happens in the home. Sons see fathers bashing their mothers. “So, that’s how you treat women” their young minds think. 

Girls see fathers bash their mothers. “So, I’d better not do anything to deserve it” their young minds reason. 

The mother does not leave. “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t’ she whispers through bruised and swollen lips. 

The root cause of violence is anger. From asking thousands of our nation’s leaders in hundreds of leadership workshops throughout Australia and New Zealand “Why do we get angry?” one reason rises to the top of those fierce flames.


How would you answer the question: Why do you get angry?

We get angry because we don't get our own way. Like little children with our lip jutting out, we stamp our foot and want the world to dance to our tune. Because our way is the right way ... isn't it?
Notice this next time you feel the red mist descend and the heat rising. Be courageous enough to ask yourself "Why am I getting angry; what is the real reason behind this?" Until you do, you will continue to roast in the flames of anger. It doesn't have to be that way. Anger kills ... others and you, sadly.

Victoria Rose
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Stop Blaming Ronald

21/11/2014

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This post is in response to a similar image posted on Facebook, laying the blame at Ronald's door. My comment of taking responsibility was greeted with scorn. My life sucks and it's not my fault. Please!
A devastating epidemic is sweeping our planet claiming new victims everyday. Few have immunity, suffering symptoms such as contortion of the face, clenching of the jaw, elevated heart rate, inability to speak calmly and confused thought processes. Victims are identified by a particular physical symptom of this infection. They aggressively raise one arm and point an accusing forefinger at the offending person or object. Reports suggest the disease is transmitted through the pointing forefinger. Newly infected victims respond instantly by raising their arm and pointing their forefinger. This strange behaviour is puzzling. One theory supports the idea the newly infected victim is attempting to offload the disease back onto the original transmitter. 

All levels of society are falling prey to this epidemic, known as PTFOB (Pointing The Finger Of Blame’). Futurists warn the loss of individual accountability will result in mass control by a minority of unscrupulous entities.

Although highly contagious, there is an antidote. The antidote is TRFYOL (Take Responsibility For Your Own Life). The antidote ensures you do not lose the ability to respond and can choose the best course of action, for you.  But be warned, supplies are limited. 

So next time you find yourself in a Ronald McDonald’s or any fast food outlet, notice you chose to walk in the front door. When your doctor warns your blood pressure is high, don’t point the finger of blame at anything outside of yourself. Doing that makes you a victim. You’re handing your power of choice to external forces.

When the tape measure reveals the sad story of your thickening waistline, you can point the finger of blame or you can act on the three fingers pointing back at you. And take action.

What will you choose today?

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