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Better The Devil You Know?

5/3/2015

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Domestic Violence
The sound of the man’s fist punching the woman’s face exploded into the packed tram, yet no one said or did anything. Why? 

Sadly, this happened in the city, yet data from the Victoria Police show the rates of domestic violence in country Victoria are higher and ... also accepted. Those women who reach out to their Mum for support are told “Suck it up love.” 

Does this mean acceptance of domestic violence is generational? Whatever the reason, these women are trapped in the vicious cycle of despair and depression. And it's their own fault, it would appear.
For so long, women have said “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t'. 
The only flowers they ever get are those placed on their graves.  

As reported in The Age “The Minister for the Prevention of Family Violence, Fiona Richardson, said people had a right to be safe, especially in their own home, no matter where they lived. 
Indeed they do Fiona, indeed they do. 

So why don’t we, the observers, speak up?

Let's say you were on that tram and witnessed the punch in the face incident. 
What would you have done?
Tell me.

Victoria Rose
Self Empowerment Enthusiast
Leadership Trainer
THE Leadership Event for Women: Get Into The Driver's Seat
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The Burnt Chop Syndrome

3/3/2015

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Started in 1911, International Women's Day (8 March) is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. Suffragettes campaigned and suffered for the right of women to vote. (The word 'Suffragette' is derived from the word "suffrage" meaning the right to vote.) 
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International Women's Day honours the work of the Suffragettes, celebrates women's success, and reminds of inequities still to be redressed. Globally, women make up two thirds of the worlds population, yet earn only 10% of the world’s income. Yes, there is much to be done and it has to start with the women themselves.  Women must become aware of their habitual behaviours, habits that don’t serve them. 

Let’s look at a common one: ‘The Burnt Chop Syndrome’. Although this is a uniquely Australian expression, it has a global impact. And it’s not just about burnt chops.
So here's how it works. You've burnt a chop or a sausage (or whatever you're cooking) and place the burnt offering on your plate. You burnt it after all. Okay, perhaps you like burnt chops? But if you don't, what is the message you're giving to yourself and to others at the table?  The message to you might be "I will give myself the worst so the others can have the best." The message to the others might be "I am the least important person here and deserve the worst. Or do you suffer from being a Martyr Mum?  Although you might laugh at this expression, and what it might mean, I describe many stories of it's affect in my book. And the effect of always giving yourself the burnt chop is long lasting.
Burnt-Chop
Just yesterday, a young woman contacted me to buy a copy of my book. She'd glanced through her Mother's copy and read the chapter "The Burnt Chop Syndrome'. Instantly, she identified with the stories in this chapter and could not believe she was doing exactly that behaviour. She saw the effect on her and her family's relationship. Immediately, she changed her behaviour. Immediately. 

Yes, this story is not just about burnt chops. It's about the value you place on yourself. How high is that?

Victoria Rose
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